Betty Rospars Ciamillo

Betty Jane Brindley was born July 20, 1944 in Rockville Centre, Long Island. After many years fighting multiple health issues, she died in hospice in the early hours of May 25, 2026 in Blue Ridge, Georgia, with her children at her bedside.

She was predeceased by her husband, Eugene Hervé Rospars, in 1985. She is survived by her four children: William Gilbert Rospars and his partner Lucy of Little Neck, New York; Rogers Eugene Rospars and his wife Tanya of Northport, New York; Julia Grace Keffer and her husband Michael of Oyster Bay, New York; and Joseph Louis Rospars and his wife Georgia of South Orange, New Jersey; and her seven grandchildren: Megan Elizabeth Keffer, Dr. Brindley Viktoria Rospars, Garrett Thomas Rospars, Abigail Faith Keffer, Riley David Keffer, Jiayi Pang, and Frances Liberty Rospars. She is also survived by her second husband, Louis P. Ciamillo.

Late of Morganton, Georgia, she spent more than 60 years on Long Island, including more than 30 years in Oyster Bay, and later Northport. She graduated St. Agnes Cathedral High School in Rockville Centre and Georgetown University School of Nursing. She practiced nursing in hospitals and homecare settings and later obtained a paralegal certificate, working for legal and insurance concerns before her retirement.

She was the third of four children to Gilbert Mandeville Brindley, a loving father who died suddenly in 1991, and Agnes Burns, who Betty took under her care with patience and compassion until her death in 2002.

After the discovery of metastatic cancer in her husband Gene in the summer of 1984, she spent a year caring for him while also caring for their three children in high school and their three-year old at home. After Gene died in 1985, some exceptional members of her family, many members of her community in Oyster Bay, and Social Security survivor benefits supplemented her hard work and determination to ensure all four of her children attended and completed college and got off to successful, fulfilling careers and loving families of their own.

In retirement she traveled -- Alaska, Hawaii, Australia, Italy, France, and Great Britain -- and lived on the shore of the Long Island Sound, a destination for her children and grandchildren to make memories. Very late in life, she also found love again, which brought her to the Blue Ridge Mountains.

She was compassionate, funny, generous, and a light to all she met, from her many lifelong pals to a president of the United States to the assorted pups, cats, hamsters, fish, and chickens she shared her home with over the years. She is deeply missed.

A funeral mass will be held at 9:30 AM on Friday, June 5, 2026 in the chapel of St. Dominic Roman Catholic Church in Oyster Bay, New York. She will be buried alongside her husband Gene in Madonna Cemetery in Fort Lee, New Jersey.

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